tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20040504.post8550732341260173133..comments2023-04-13T04:39:53.556-05:00Comments on The Stuff I Think About: petuniahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01329221084413499431noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20040504.post-68740047299465779552006-11-10T05:04:00.000-06:002006-11-10T05:04:00.000-06:00It won't get easier, it will get harder. I suggest...It won't get easier, it will get harder. I suggest you open the adoption up and let her have some contact with her child. The way adoptions are done are all wrong, the mothers are rushed into making permanent decisions that cannot be changed. <br />Saying you hurt because you are so happy to have her child is one thing but making the situation less painful for her is another.<br /><br />I also don't understand why contact is made through an agency, doesn't she know where you are? That's kind of wrong too, she should know where her child is. <br /><br />She's not dangerous to you or her child. I think she doesn't want to take her away from you, she feels that it's better for her daughter to be with you, that's the feeling I get.<br /><br />Does this sound ok? I am on your side with this, not taking sides I mean. There are not sides, just two mothers who both love their daughter.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20040504.post-69658107374314682532006-11-09T23:15:00.000-06:002006-11-09T23:15:00.000-06:00Thank you Kim, I am not really upset for me but fo...Thank you Kim, I am not really upset for me but for her. She will never be able to forget but I hope it gets easier. I hurt that we are so happy and she is so sad. I hurt because she won't have the most beautiful sweet little girl we have.petuniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13940306008321939846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20040504.post-70260848624676098502006-11-09T18:14:00.000-06:002006-11-09T18:14:00.000-06:00That's a really tough situation to be in. I feel f...That's a really tough situation to be in. I feel for her as do you too. The worst thing you could do is hide away and shut her out. Why doesn't she have visits with her child? Maybe you can open the adoption up a bit more, no contact must be killing her.<br /><br />I am not saying anything to make you feel worse I think you are already upset right?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com