Friday, July 07, 2006

I HAVE CREATED A MONSTER!!!

I really like my biomom-she's nice. But now i have this baby things are getting weird! She asked "How will this work? will she call me grandma?" YYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYEEEEEEEEEKKKKKKK!
I said "it would be quite confusing to call you grandma, i guess she'll call you by your first name and when she is older she will find out who you really are. " I told her my parents mean the world to me and i would NEVER hurt them and it WOULD hurt them if they knew i knew her. This is going to get sticky i fear!

3 comments:

illegit said...

Yes, it will get a whole lot stickier, the more secrets are kept. When one is keeping secrets, one also invariably has to start lying to cover the secrets. You are also now making your child complicit (not of her choosing) in the world of 'Secrets and Lies'. Be a good role model..teaching your child that 'Honesty is the Best Policy'will enrich her life, not detract from it.

petunia said...

who the heck are you? You don't know me or my situation--my parents are in their 70s and i would NEVER dream of hurting them! I would NEVER tell my parents I know the bios----their agency told them NEVER to tell (that was the 60s). It doesn't bother me - Everyone is aware I am adopted but they will NEVER know that i found them! They should feel enough for me NOT to be that way - the biodad does....

Anonymous said...

I'm confused. Why would this hurt your parents? I also don't get why you got mad at someone who suggested that 'Honesty is the Best Policy.' I've never heard somebody get so defensive at mention of such a universal truth.

Surely your parents aren't any less your parents because you found your biological mom, right? Your parents aren't less important, right? You don't love them any less, right? So what is there to be hurt by?