Monday, April 30, 2007

I've been thinking a lot about how some anti-adoptionists think that people who adopt are selfish.

If two people get married and decide to have a child is that selfish? Do they only have the child's best interest at heart?

If a person has infertility and takes drugs or does IVF is that selfish? Are they only thinking about what's best for that child?

And if a couple cannot have a biological child pursues adoption is that selfish? if you say yes --why is it? they don't go and take the child out of the arms of a biomom.....they place them in their waiting arms. They have already made the decision to place and the adopted parents are just accepting what that biomom has already decided to do.

So are all these people selfish because they want a child? Just because one child is raised by a biological mother and one is raised by an adopted mother.....all parents are selfish in that they want a child to love and bring up as a part of their family.

I don't see how anyone can see any different.


Anonymous said...

So frequently you cannot change peoples minds.

Anonymous said...

Once again I think you are dead on!!

Anonymous said...

Hmm, it makes you wonder if an adoptee who seems to feel a lot of anger about being adopted wants to start a family, but learns that she is infertile, would she adopt? And would she still feel the same way? Would she opt NOT to have a family?

Anonymous said...

Personally, I think having a child is one of the most selfish things you can do. Parenting is the selfless act in my opinion.
IVF, selfish.
The old fashioned way, selfish.
Adoption, iffy. It really depends on your motives, doesn't it?
But you with your laundry list of expectations for your perfect child wouldn't know anything about being selfish would you?

petunia said...

talk about missing the point...