Sunday, May 27, 2007

A Beautiful Garden


I read in another blog that "Adoptees are like rootless trees, trying to survive on foreign roots in foreign soil."

I thought that was strange. I think Adoptees are like trees that are up-rooted and re-planted. That makes more sense. The trees do well if re-planted in a good fertile soil and if uprooted and re-planted too many times (like some foster care kids) they could do poorly and not grow well. There are many different comparisons you could make. I'm sorry for those adoptees who got the crappy soil and did not flourish. Thankfully there are SO many trees that are flourishing and bearing much fruit!

5 comments:

kathy said...

Hi Petunia, I don't know what blog you are referring to, but most likely a transracial or international transcultural adoptee would feel like this, no matter who good the soil and replanting is. Racism can have a profound effect on tra adoptees, don't you think?

Tishslp said...

Good post, P :) I really hope the soil in our family is good soil for DS and any others we may adopt. He is thriving, so far!

petunia said...

Kathy, I agree that transracial adoptees have more things to have to overcome and yes, they can feel a bit more "out of place" if things are not handled well. I have quite a few friends who have adopted AA or AA/C children and they are so wise about it all...I admire how they have handled it and they are very open about their differences and celebrate them---it's wonderful to see.

Tishslp....it amazes me how they will thrive with love, love, love!

LeRoy Dissing said...

Many issues to work through when in comes to adoption. Some are more successful then others to be sure. International adoptions have a few more hurtles to make, if they can.

The Passionate Peach said...

Hi Petunia,
I agree with your analogy that adoptees are "re-planted" - however, the tree remains the same tree, and does have to graft and adjust life-long - it can bear fruit, thank God, but it does have so much more work to do, than trees which are not uprooted.